You know  what sucks? Yes that’s right thank you, dating in your twenties. All kinds of different old hags tell you exactly how and how not to date while you sit biting your nails and ripping out your hair. THIS ENDS NOW. 

Ladies of the internet, stop googling how to date and who to date and get out there and find out for yourself! No article is going to tell you exactly who is right for you, and when they do they could be wrong! 

I’m gonna go through every advice I’ve been given and prove that no one way is the right way. You can do whatever you want in finding what you want out of your relationships!

1. DATE AS MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE

This is a great way to really know what you want in a partner. After dating so many people, you are bound to figure out what exactly you expect from someone while dating and who works best with you! Whoever you are, you are awesome. And you deserve better than the first person you ever date. Plus you can spend this time casually dating people while traveling or working on your career. Because you, can do it all.

2.   DATE ONLY IF YOU SEE A FUTURE WITH THE PERSON

This way is also great if you really want to get married or stay together for a very long time. Going into each relationship with the expectation that it will be a long lasting relationship, is a really mature way to go about the dating life. If your end goal is to be married or whatever, then you are literally dating people in the hopes of that outcome! Good for you for knowing what you want in life. #ringbeforespring #ringbeforefinals #ringbefore40 #ringbeforeidie #optimism

3.   DATE SOMEONE WHO IS DIFFERENT THAN YOU ARE 

In most peoples lives, people associate with people they share common beliefs and ideals with. In this type of dating you are forced to understand different peoples opinions and love and respect them for it. You become a more mature, and well rounded individual. Good for you, you’re brave and openminded.

4.    DATE YOUR SOULMATE, AND THEN MARRY THE CRAP OUT OF THEM 

If you start dating someone you know you’ll spend your life with and want to marry them, then do it! If you know that will make you happiest and you will love them forever then what is holding you back? You are a lucky one, I wish you all the happiness in the world and an invite to your wedding and reception and  family gathering and I’ll be staying in your house the week of the wedding.

5.     DATE NO ONE

You don’t need no one holding you back. People can be the worst, especially in relationships. But you, you are free! You can work on your career, move to a different country, spend time with friends, family; really do whatever you want. Don’t let people tell you that you need to date in order to be happy. You define your own happiness!

In all these, it is important that they are not mutually exclusive. You can always travel or move to a different country while being married or in a relationship with someone. You can also be extremely fulfilled in your life without a romantic partner. Every person is different, and every dating experience is different! Date who you want and forget the rest. 

Also just a small note on dating:

Today I saw a lady on the subway looking on her phone. My cell phone was dead and at home (100% charged and in my hand), so I was completely forced to see what she was doing on her phone. She was going through each of her photos of her and her husband, zooming in on not her face like most of us do, but her husbands. After every zoomed in picture she would smile to herself and go on to the next picture. When looking for a partner in life, I hope you all find a person you want to zoom in on just their face. I hope they make you grateful and remind you how precious love is in life, just like the woman on the subway.